Episode 3: Methods Over Results and the ND Friction Point

Description

I got written up once for trying to solve a customer's problem. Not for failing—for trying the wrong way. And here's the thing: the problem never got solved. The customer left without ever getting what they needed. But I still got the write-up. Because the process mattered more than the outcome.

In this episode, I break down one of the biggest friction points between neurodivergent talent and the organizations we work in: the NT obsession with methods over results. I share the casino story that still makes me salty twelve years later, and offer practical strategies for navigating hierarchy when your brain is wired to see answers directly.

Key quote from this episode:

"Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said by me? Does this need to be said right now?"

Topics Covered

  • The casino anecdote: written up for trying to solve a problem the wrong way

  • NT method obsession vs. ND results orientation

  • Why being right doesn't protect you if you're right the wrong way

  • The pattern recognition penalty

  • Circumspection: the skill late-diagnosed ND people learn the hard way

  • Practical strategies for communicating with supervisors

  • Reframing accommodation as communication protocol

Five Strategies for Navigating Hierarchy

  1. Lead with the outcome, not the problem — "I want to make sure we hit [goal]. I noticed something that might get in the way."

  2. Frame it as a question — "Have we considered..." gives room to engage instead of defend.

  3. Document in writing — Creates a paper trail and gives you processing time to choose your words.

  4. Find the person who can hear it — Sometimes the chain of command is the problem.

  5. Know when to let it go — If you've raised it and documented it, you've done your part. Protect yourself.

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